Hey everyone, Daniel Contreras (@dlucs_) here founder of The New Era Of Barbering. I hope you guys have been joined the YouTube content back on YouTube for about almost three weeks now. And it's been a stretch to say the least right. To create content, uh, not only for podcasting, but also YouTube, but I've been loving it. So I hope you have been too as well. Um, one thing kind of that really struck me when I was getting back into YouTube, um, was the factor of, Hey, look, I haven't been doing this for a while. Right. So I don't really know what's going to happen of it. And there was almost a moment for me when there was, uh, like zero confidence going into it. There, there were like, I wouldn't say full-heartedly, but there, there was a moment in time where like, Oh, okay.I posted the haircut tutorial. And then I did the self video that was just literally shot on my iPhone. And then I uploaded it and like was zero edits and heading into it. I kind of delayed because I didn't have confidence to push forward, um, with what I needed to do. Um, and really it made me, it delayed a lot of and the lack of confidence in the ability to go ahead and shoot that one, that video, like a 30 minute video all the way straight through, um, had me delaying to where I was late for a couple of appointments. So it had like a domino effect, right. And these things pile up and it's like, it made me think, okay, if this one little action had that immediate action of, of derailing the rest of the day, what did it do for the rest of the week?What to do for the rest of my month and wanting to do for the rest of my year. And you could say while you're ma might be overthinking it, but you can also say, Hey, the domino effect creates stuff like that. And that's where we get to go ahead and really, um, shift to a different mindset and shift to more of a, um, how, like, instead of like, okay, I'm doing this, I'm doing this to do as a confidence will actually come, but how to automatically, how to develop confidence in your work and create the forward push that you need right now immediately. Um, and this is no magic pill or anything like that. It's, it's something that you have to practice. And, and, um, it's something that I've been implementing in my work. As of recently, it's a principle I've learned. Um, at first you always have to start off with what is confidence, right?And confidence is, is basically the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something basically affirm trust. And trust me, that is the definition. I looked that up on a pod on that podcasting on Google. Um, and then you have to understand what, what is belief, right? Because if it's a feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something, so a belief is an acceptance that a statement is true or something that exists. So you can like it, it's a firm. Um, it's a true statement that you can actually rely on something or someone like yourself, probably the most important person to rely on is yourself. First person. They should always trust now how to develop or create belief and what you need. Because if that, if it starts with belief, right, belief creates into confidence because without the balloon, um, it doesn't really matter.Confidence will never become so really how to develop belief in him. And really it's a need either unique, either need a statement to prove a true one idea that potentially something can exist, right? So with the, you need to have an idea and potentially it could exist or could potentially become true. Um, you also need to be able to detach from the outcome and how it should look to go get that process right? More times, uh, for myself, I've experienced actually a lack of getting closer to my outcome when I put too much importance on the process, on how my process should look on getting to the outcome when the outcome should be the only thing I'm concerned about. And a lot of times we think about this a lot and, and, and for myself, um, working with other barbers, right? Um, sometimes they will worry about the, the outlook of what their video will get.Like when we first start working together and it's like, Oh, uh, you know, it's 300 views, but how should I look that I'm like, look, nobody's going to care what your video that got 300 views is gonna look like when you're getting like a hundred thousand views and you're getting paid a hundred plus dollars haircut. It's just not, it's not gonna matter. Right. And everybody, including myself, I found myself wanting to control more of how my journey looks versus actually getting to the goal. I think that's where the energy output for myself. And I found myself a lot of times when we went, when I catch myself doing this, I'm really not making progress towards my goal. I'm really not getting closer to my goal. I'm just trying to make this picture perfect looking thing that looks like I'm getting towards the thing, but I'm really going in all different directions just to make sure the picture is intact and the way I want it to.And like I said before, you have to go ahead and just, just focus on the outcome that you're desiring it, and really nailed down to the main part of the action that needs to be taken. Like basically create like a, whatever your war map is on how to attack this one daily action and set it off, focus, focus up all your energy on that one thing. So for like, for me, I take a lot of time. I take like a three-day process to record all of my podcasting, right. I take a three-day process to record all of my YouTube content. Um, and, um, I'm still getting better at that because she's moves a lot. She's moved. So some things get, get thrown up. And I can't record all in one day, but typically I like to go ahead and, and hammer out the different processes from brainstorming, articulating, and writing out and recording.And, uh, that process now for you this, and, and really nice, shouldn't say for you, but for me at least, um, this is how I started playing up that, that, uh, that process to create confidence in the work I was going to be doing, right, because this is the, this is a fact, the fact that we have to come back to it is that we're creating confidence to where we don't push back work to where we don't, um, to where I, don't not weak where I don't, um, push back my work where I don't, uh, um, have an experience of cool. I know I need to record a YouTube video is going to get done like literally the morning of, because of I'm questioning, if I'm going to be good or not on a 30 minute video, right? So most importantly, confidence is gained not by force forcing or focusing on creating confidence, but by dropping the importance of having confidence.Um, and I've talked about dropping the importance of, of certain things, dropping the importance of outcome, dropping the importance of really anything, especially like, you know, everything that we want to achieve can only be achieved and really, truly, uh, purely achieved through its inverse. So, um, like the diagram, you know, if you stay up to date with my YouTube, the diagram I, I posted on created on my YouTube, uh, this past week w talking about focus and all the different directions we were being pulled in, um, creating focus from that standpoint, um, would honestly just be chaotic and not sustainable. Um, however, if we are, instead of focusing on creating focus, right, if you're focusing on creating focus, how much focus are you really creating? Holy. How many times am I going to say focus? Right. Instead of focusing on creating focus and focused on cutting out chaos, right.Instead of focusing on focus, you're just, you're just cutting out the chaos. I got to find a different word to use. Sometimes by principle focus would appear because it's just like how I was erasing all the other lines that are dragging away from just doing one thing. That's exactly what you need to do instead of having being pulled in five different directions. Imagine like, if your hand was like the, the little ball that, uh, uh, drew out and you, you open up your hand, extend your fingers as, as they could. Right. And instead of, um, and going in one direction, you're like, you're just trying to focus all your, all your strength and going with one finger, right. Or, or imagine from the diagram, like, you're just trying to go forward with one finger, but all the other fingers are pulling in the S in the, in their direction that they're pointing.You're not going to go in the direction of, let's say your middle finger. Let's say the middle finger is the direction he wants to go. So it's really forward. If your hands out in front of you, you have your thumb pulling to the left. If you're using your right hand, you have your pinky pulling off to the right. If you're using your right hand, um, your index finger is pointing off to like this kind of like a 45 degree angle to the, to the left. Uh, and then your ring finger is kind of, I don't know, mine is a little bent, so I don't know where it's going towards. Right. But you're going all these different directions as being pulled on all of these strings, it, the hands not going to go forward. And it's not the fact of, okay, I just need to force more focus and more pull on the middle finger, because that means that literally I might go, I might go four, but I'm going to go slowly.It just means putting down all the other fingers and putting them in a fist and you might be yourself off right now. And that one string is going to pull you forward. And that basically what that means is you're yourself by trying to literally, um, by not focusing on the inverse, you're simply, and I didn't do that on purpose. That honestly just happened, um, right now, but by not focusing on it's on you're on the inverse and trying to focus in forcing something to happen, kind of like a crazy, you know, way I was kind of doing this myself. So I don't know how accurate that might be, but stay with me here. All right. So in principle, we should never focus on creating confidence, but that will, because that will never be sustainable, right. If, if we just focus on creating focus, it still means chaos is going on in the background.We're just trying to block it out and just trying to will power our way through to, to having focus or having confidence, quote unquote. Right. Um, or let's say like the, the, the inverse of confidence is, um, what would it be like self doubt, right? Like judgment, uh, stress, uh, unworthiness, you know, and, and, and, um, that's what we need to, that that's going on in the background, instead of just pushing that to the side and trust, trying to focus more and more and more in confidence that doesn't take away from the problem, the problem needs to be taken away. The self-doubt the unworthiness and the importance of success need to be taken away. And through doing this, we achieve confidence in our work by not focusing on it, by not putting importance on it, by not, um, putting it as like, number one, we achieved this.Right. And I, and I think of this as like, um, let me see. I'm sure we've all seen somebody like to do who's dancing. Right. And somebody who really doesn't, they're trying to look cool, but because they're trying to look cool and they have such high importance on looking cool. It looks so awkward and stiff. Right. And it just, you're just like, Oh, what are you, what are you doing? Like, you know, just stopped dancing. And it's, it's not the fact that they can't dance. The fact that they want to look cool while dancing birthday just drop the aspect of looking cool while dancing, like, we've all seen the person who probably doesn't give a while they dance. And you're just like, Oh, okay, that's good. That is what it is, is whatever it's funny. But that person who tries to tries to act cool while they're dancing or tries to act cool while they're doing something or try to achieve, you know, try to put high importance of that.One thing, it creates like this, this stressful tension in the action. And the same thing happens whenever you try to go after a goal. Right. How many times have, I mean, I'm for myself at least two, um, a lot of times, and I've talked about this, like a lot of times the goal that I set for myself probably wouldn't have been achieved a lot easier and a lot quicker if I just dropped the importance and accepted at some point in time, there is a possibility failing. Cool. Because if I'm trying to like, look, the beauty of this is, is, is, is exactly what I said before. Right? If you acknowledge the fact that there is a, there is a possibility of failure. You can just go ahead, move forward. Because if you try to focus more and more on success, more and more focusing hard on the fact of, I need to achieve this goal.I need to achieve this goal. I need to achieve this goal. Just like how we did with confidence and all, all the other that if you just, um, if you didn't take away self doubt and worthiness and the importance of success, um, that's still in the backroom. Same thing is with the shadow of doubt that you will not achieve it. And you're not acknowledging it a lot of times when you acknowledge feelings. And like, when I go ahead and, um, work with barbers, um, I don't tell them to like, um, force themselves to do anything. Right. If you feel mad or you feel frustrated, let that out. Because honestly, like that allows you to clear yourself out, clear your space, and then it, it allows you to, then it takes like 30 seconds. Like you think you're going to be mad at this thing forever.No, if you literally let it out, you'll probably only have a good 30 seconds of like screaming, yelling, frustration. And then you're going to look around and be like, okay, now what allow yourself to feel those emotions? Like when, uh, when I'm working with a student and they're getting frustrated with their content, I I say, Hey, tell me about it. Yeah. Tell it, tell me how frustrated you are telling me how you, you know, you're, you're, you're, you're, you're, I'm not getting results and you hate it, right? Because that allows them to then go ahead and get clear that space out. It allows them to get all that junk out that they've been would have otherwise suppressed. And we can now start from a clean slate and say, great. Now what now? Where can we move forward? Now that you got that out, this is what we need to do, because instead of trying to pile on more, we just clear out the space, clear out the declared, the garbage, and then we can have a clean slate to go and start everything else.So how do I apply this for my mentor students and especially in the barber industry of my own career. So for myself, instead of focusing on the next way to cut hair better, like example, tutorial, or technique, um, to get down to a core aspect of like, really, you want to get down to a core aspect of who you are, uh, that creates the subpar product. So it's not the fact that you, that you need to learn how the next best technique it's. Hey, look, you're you yourself. Allow yourself to produce subpar products. It doesn't matter if you are painting. It doesn't matter if you're washing a car. It doesn't matter if you're cutting hair. It doesn't matter if you're washing the dishes. And it doesn't matter if you are simply creating a profile on Tinder, you're creating a subpar product, how you do one thing is how you do everything.So instead of trying to figure out like exactly where to cut hair better at PR, ask yourself why you create subpar products, why you allow yourself the lowest standard of yourself to reside there. Another big one is, is lack of patience, right? For me, I would use to be a huge, I used to hate, I used to have zero patients, started meditating, create some patients, right. Um, and this just allows you to really go ahead. And at least for myself, it allows me to really go into, um, cool. I'm not getting the result right now. Perfect. It's not supposed to like come immediately. I know I'm going to have to work at it, right. Literally the food on my plate that I eat from for lunch, I eat. And for like, for those of you, I, I eat, I eat pretty healthy. Now I eat a lot of vegetables and only meat. I don't really eat any processed carbs or anything like that. So I'll have some asparagus, some mushrooms and some onions and some Brussels sprouts that I, I pan fry and I make some chicken every single day. And it's great. And I may, I put, put some pesto in there. Two amazing, simple, amazing, quick efficient gets everything I need in there. But all that food took a lot of time to get to my plate.Right. All that food took a lot of time to grow. And you could wear, you say, but I like, I get it from trader Joe's. So I don't, it's not like there's still not that, that much better, but like still that food took time to go from a seed to sprout up, took a lot of watering, harvesting, same thing, like with your, with your dreams. Like literally the, like I almost take the world as my classroom. The world is living in my car, my classroom.Okay.And I think that that leads into my next point is his lack of focusing on one variable. When I focus on literally one thing, which is now making sure that my students who are barbers create long lasting results in their barber career, allowing them to be able to charge a hundred dollars and maybe a year and a half or so, maybe two years, as well as, as raising their prices up by 15 to 25 bucks with, after we're done working together, like I'm just working on improving my clients results and how can I get them to those results?And when you have a lack of focusing on one variable, the world does not become your classroom at all, because you have too much going on. Another thing is, is a lack of desire, excellence, basically. Like you have a very, very, like, like I remember when, like my standard of my, of my, uh, and I, this was near for the whole time I was cutting hair probably was the whole time when I was cutting here. My, um, what's it called? My, my, uh, my little, uh, where I kept all my Clippers and stuff. Just messy. It's about lowest standard. And it's like, yo, that's a direct reflection of my mind, right there. It's literally a direct reflection of how, um, I take care of my clients. It can be a great piece of, but it's a piece of at the end of the day.Lastly, I'll just say this.You also want to like create confirmations, not miracles. Right. And for me, when, when I started understanding, like when I, when I, um, you know, when, when an accomplishment is made, you know, you don't throw up your hands and scream as though it was like a miracle, like literally not like, woo, like you can, you can celebrate, you know, this is literally telling your mind, basically that even down to your core, you had some type of doubt about whether or not you could achieve it or not. And you were trying to force it because you were trying, you were trying to push down that doubt. And this doesn't mean to celebrate, like I said before, celebrate, you know, the out of what you have done, but also recognize where that comes from. Does it come from a place of Holy, I didn't think that was possible.Or does it come from a place of confirmed? I knew I was this and whatever that thing was, the differences that one you had in the idea, like you had no idea that you could accomplish it. The other was the other celebratory, but knows that you were that all along and was just waiting for the confirmation in reality, right? The, the ladder creates a firm foundation really of who you are becoming. And the other really just said, it's like, it's almost the direct reflection of like a hail Mary pass. And hopefully I can pull it off again. Right. Hopefully I can go back and do that crazy again, because I didn't think I was going to do it before. I don't know if I can pull it off again.The first one stems from a place of not true confidence and stealing allow self-doubt to be in the, in the realm, in the background. And you're kind of just for focusing and forcing the achieving a goal. And it is a result of not defeating and killing off those emotions and thoughts and beliefs at first while the other is that is income confirmation that comes from a place of no thought of defeating feelings whatsoever. It's out of the idea that you are and nothing else, questions you because of that. And when you get to that place of, yes, I am. It's just confirmed.That's when that's when true confidence is created in your work and you never second doubt yourself, you never I'm sure for myself. I remember when I wouldn't achieve something, I just had something recently that I didn't achieve over a past weekend at a weekend goal. Didn't achieve it. And typically if I didn't achieve a goal, it would probably take me about, you know, let's say next morning, I wake up, I'm still thinking about it. Still thinking about what the was. I was wrong with me. Why was I like this? Why did I go ahead and allow this, this week in the past, it was a do bad weekend, beating myself up when I allowed to go ahead and really understand this aspect of, um, not only forgiving myself, right, but detaching from the, um, and really dropping the importance of, of having success or the confidenceIn my work. It allowed me to really look and say, great, that happened. Let's move on. Where can I get better at?Okay.And that's true power right there. That's incredible.That's incredibly standing in your true confidenceAnd imagine how would that will actually affect you when it comes to creating content, comes to raising prices comes to attacking your career. That's why a lot of students that go through elevator mentorship, get the results, because it's not just the tactics that of social media. It's not just the business implementation. It's also the very different approach to mindset that I, that I choose to take with not only myself, but my students and implement. And there's different way of thinking, allows them to have success prolonged. After we start after we're done working with each other and the results speak for itself,And you have to, you have to start thinking, or, or, or anybody like those are the inputs. Remember I talked about a, on a podcast about inputs and outputs, right? It's everybody wants to focus on the outputs, um, as the results as the measurable, but I'm more focused on where you inputting to get that result. How are you, what are you reading to go ahead and, and, and information wise and influence wise to go ahead and get you to get that result. Not the technique that you're doing it in, not the tactic that you're taking, but who was the influence that, that Le that pushed you in that direction? To think that way I felt good today, uh, with Corona virus, I swear. I feel like everybody is going through a rut and it's really like, yo, like I said before in the, in the podcast is coronavirus creates an incredible opportunity for us to see where we all, um, or see where I at least fall short on with my work I've done with myself and my students as well too.It's been a very interesting couple of weeks, but it's incredible opportunity to drop importance of what's going on around you get the frustration out of whatever's going on stress. Don't try to bottle it up or try to pretend like everything's good, or try to go along with the crowd. If you're sad, feel sad, let it out cry. I'm willing to bet you might take five minutes and then it's done with, and then you can go on and say, great. Now what can I do? Go ahead and create maybe, um, a lack of clients, maybe it's, whatever it may be, situation wise, let it out, acknowledge it, see where you can go set that new goal, set that new intention towards that goal and just refocus, baby, get back on it with that, that the end of this podcast, if you found this a value as always go ahead and share this with one person that you think will take a tremendous value or needs to hear this that not really needs to hear this, but should hear this as well as it is.If this is your first time listening to this podcast. Welcome. And go ahead and subscribe. I always get tongue tied during these endings, subscribe to the podcast, make sure you drop a review, um, and drop a rating as well too. Uh, and make sure if you drop a review, you also drop your Instagram handle. Would love to go ahead and shout you out as well as have a little conversation with you. Um, as well as I also am back on YouTube creating content similar to this, except with visual representation. So like how we had with my hand, little visual representation, I was trying to walk you through. Um, we, I actually have a place where I can go ahead and actually do, um, like visual representations that make a little bit like, not a little bit, but a lot more sense to what I'm saying, because sometimes I come up with the flyer and stuff and sometimes things, uh, kind of don't entirely make the point that I want to. And sometimes they don't.So go ahead and make sure I drop a video every single Sunday at 10:00 AM. I just subscribed to the YouTube channel. It's just deluxe deal. UCS underscore as well as if you're interested in working with me in one-on-one mentorship, you can go ahead and just click the link in my bio on my Instagram and apply for a sending an application. Spots are pretty like we're going to start rolling out with, with new students. Pretty, pretty soon. We're finishing up with students right now, especially throughout this, this course, and the results have been incredible, especially like through headstrong wise and remember whatever you're going through right now. Think of it as long-term right. Think about like, okay, how is this moment in time serving me? Whereas like everybody's freaking out maybe about the next three months. And they're all saying, I don't know when this is going to end. This is terrible. It's like, well, it might be three months. It might be six months, but it's not going to be your whole life.What is the principle you can take from this? And what is the lesson you can learn for in this moment that will open up things for you for the rest of your life, allow you to, when another situation like this comes out, because I'm sure another situation like this will come up within our lifetime or something similar, how will you be able to react? And what will you have been able to develop habit wise right now, now will aid you with that long-term thing. And maybe it's always going to win and always work out in your favor. Short-term thinking you'll always be worried. You'll always be on the move. Your cheese will be moving all the time. It's not fun with that. Y'all I'll see you. I'll talk to you on the next podcast. Not see you. I always say I can see you. I can't see you, but I love each and every single one of you. Thank you for always tuning in and showing love. Remember, go ahead and share this podcast with one person that you believe, um, you know, just get them with it, drop a little something on them, right with that. Y'all I'll see you next time. Or I'll talk to you next time. Do that every single time.
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